Good Riddance to an Old Habit

Kept me married, but gladly no longer needed

In my earlier years of marriage, I developed a habit. It was an odd one. It was in response to conversations that were headed south. Communication that wasn’t working the way I wanted it to.

I hadn’t yet developed the skills to navigate in a better way to avoid a fight. I knew I didn’t want to fight. I just didn’t know what else to do. I grew up in a house where there was no fighting. I feel very lucky for that. But it left me to develop an odd habit.

This weekend is actually my eighteenth wedding anniversary. I just recently realized that this habit was gone. I guess it was good riddance. We have learned to better navigate conversations and communicate better. I might pull out the old habit again this weekend just for fun and to see what reaction I get. I think it will make us both laugh in remembrance, for farewell and good riddance.

Sometimes it would take a couple of rounds. It was like an alarm sounding — I don’t want to engage with my friend like this! At that point, we would get our conversation back on a better track and work toward common ground and resolution! It really did save us from many fights…and keep us married, I do believe.

Cheers! And happy Valentine’s Day — Friends!

Thanks for reading!

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